Burrito Bag Wisdom

Last night my son and I were driving home from Chipotle. Along the way he noticed something written on the carry-out bag. Though the burrito bowl and quesadilla were really good, the story my son read from the bag may have been the highlight.

I liked it. I am recounting the story verbatim from the burrito bag.

Two-Minute Alchemy
by Paulo Coelho

A legend tells of a man who used to carry water every day to his village, using two large pitchers tied on either end of a piece of wood, which he placed across his shoulders. 

One of the pitchers was older than the other and was full of small cracks; every time the man came back along the path to his house, half of the water was lost.

For two years, the man made the same journey. The younger pitcher was always very proud of the way it did its work and was sure that it was up to the task for which it had been created, while the other pitcher was mortally ashamed that it could carry out only half its task, even though it knew that the cracks were the result of long years of work. 

So ashamed was the old pitcher that, one day, while the man was preparing to fill it up with water from the well, it decided to speak to him.

"I wish to apologize because, due to my age, you only manage to take home half the water you fill me with, and thus quench only half the thirst awaiting you in your house."

The man smiled and said, "When we go back, be sure to take a careful look at the path."

The pitcher did as the man asked and noticed many flowers and plants growing along one side of the path.

"Do you see how much more beautiful nature is on your side of the road?" the man remarked. "I knew you had cracks, but I decided to take advantage of them. I sowed vegetables and flowers there, and you always watered them. I've picked dozens of roses to decorate my house, and my children have had lettuce, cabbage and onions to eat. If you were not the way you are, I could never have done this." 

It is sometimes difficult to accept our cracks; and harder still to value them. But take a look along the path... what do you see?

For now...
D

...sounds like... JUICE!

If we stop for a moment... if we look a little deeper... if we know for what we are listening... we find there is inspiration all around. It's there. It's here. We just have to look. We have to listen. The symphonic tones of inspiration are often subtle. The crashing cymbals of everyday stuff tend to drown them out - but never over-power them. As Shawn O'Connell says to Walter Mitty, "Beautiful things don't ask for attention."

Sorry for the mixed movie references in this post

We live in a culture - with its 24 hour news cycle, sensational reporting and reality TV - that inundates us with... well, the word I want to use slips out of my mouth at times, but is hard to type. Sometimes we need a little help tuning in. (Cue the music). 

I'm a sucker for a good pep talk. More than that, I love inspirational stories, inspirational speeches, inspirational people. Maybe I'm an inspiration junkie. At heart, I want to be inspired and to inspire. (That's a pretty big aspiration... to be an inspiration).

Each of us can be inspiration for someone. Stop and reread that last sentence. It's pretty much the point of this ramble. 

In the movie Million Dollar Arm, the least likely character, Amit, becomes the needed inspiration for two young Indian baseball pitchers to overcome their fears. A passionate baseball fan and want-to-be coach, Amit is given the opportunity to deliver the pre-tryout speech to his two nervous countrymen. As he begins to look in his coaching book for what he should say, he is told, "...from the heart." And he delivers:

YOU are real baseball players. Now small boys in India can dream to be like you. Let's go make JB, miss Brenda and our families proud...

Hey brothers... I'm seeing my dream in both of you. 

Your victory is my victory. Rock it brothers!

Amit's speech resonates. It could have come from Herb Brooks to the '80 Miracle On Ice hockey team, Mickey to Rocky (it's real, don't you doubt it!), or Knute Rockne to the Fighting Irish. 

A couple lessons on inspiration from Amit:

Inspiration... 

• ... comes from the heart. It can't be faked, drummed up or put on auto-pilot. Inauthenticity kills inspiration!
• ... comes from genuinely caring. Inspiration, void of personal investment, is noise.
• ... is inclusive. Inspiration has to be we and not you, or it is short-lived. 
• ... requires sacrifice. We can't fill someone else unless we poured out. The Greatest Inspirer of all time said, "Greater love has no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends." Then he went and did it!

You can inspire someone... today. 

Even more than that,

You are an inspiration to someone... right now!

Their victory is your victory... so ROCK IT BROTHER (or SISTER)!

For now...

D

P.S. - If you're wondering about the title, rent the movie :) 

GRAD!!!

This is a little - OK, way - late...

My (eldest) baby girl graduated from the University of Southern California this week. She didn't have the opportunity to walk across the stage because she is currently in Seattle pursuing her dream playing professional soccer. 

To say I'm proud of her would be a massive understatement. She has exceeded my dreams and expectations in becoming the young woman she is. Her faith in Christ is most important to her and she has a compassionate heart toward those around her. 

At times I have parented out of fear. No longer. I trust God's presence and plan for her. 

C, I can't wait to see all the future holds for you!


An aside: As I'm writing this, Pirates of the Caribbean is on the TV. The theme music is deeply emotional to me. It was the music to my younger daughter's floor routine as a competitive gymnast. I guess it's just an afternoon for nostalgia. 

For now...
D

Fake it 'til... (pt.3)

FAKE IT 'TIL YOU MAKE IT...

FAKE IT 'TIL YOU BECOME IT...

BE IT 'TIL YOU BECOME IT!

Let's get right to the point. 

There is more in us than we know. 

More potential. More capacity. More ability. 

MUCH MORE!

Since I am for the moment enamored with Davy Crockett, I'll stretch the analogy out like salt-water taffy. Davy Crockett didn't become Davy Crockett at the Alamo. He was Davy long before. In fact, Davy Crockett was Davy Crockett all the time he was becoming Davy Crockett. Dizzying, but still with me? 

For just a moment you and I are sitting with Davy on the wall of the Alamo the fateful night before Santa Anna's canons reign down fire. You ask the legend, "When did you truly become Davy Crockett, King of the Wild Frontier?" He smiles and as the light from a hundred torches dances in his eyes he says, "I've been Davy Crockett from the beginning. He's who I am, and who I am becoming." 

If I could sum up these last three posts in a phrase, it would be this paradox: 

You and I are who we are becoming... 

and we are becoming who we are!

I remember reading Malcolm Gladwell's wonderful book Outliers. In it Gladwell espouses the 10,000 HOUR RULE. His premise is that it takes roughly ten thousand hours of practice to achieve mastery in a field. (The theory has come under fire recently, but It's really not the point here). Gladwell paints his picture with the stories of many successful people; among them John, Paul, George, Ringo and Bill. (That's The Beatles and Bill, as in Gates). 

It is however, possible to draw an errant conclusion from the 10,000 HOUR RULE. The Beatles didn't magically become the Beatles as hour number nine thousand nine hundred ninety nine ticked through the final of it's thirty six hundred seconds. They were The Beatles with every chord strummed and harmony sung the whole time they were becoming the Beatles. Bill Gates was the inquisitive, creative, focused kid during those nights and weekends tucked away in the Seattle computer lab long before Microsoft ever was. 

Two problems with Fake it 'til you make it... The first is that we really can't fake it. I know I can't. I value authenticity far too much and can't stand it's antithesis, inauthenticity - especially when I see it in the mirror! The second problem with the concept is in the destination - ... make it. What does it mean to make it? When have we made it? Will we know? And the corollary questions have haunted the successful for eons: WHAT NEXT? and; IS THIS ALL THERE IS?

So we ditched Fake it 'til you make it... in favor of Fake it 'til you become it... Definitely better; but the transformation isn't complete. It still has us acting outside of ourselves (i.e. inauthentically). It does, however bring a sense that journey is the point; destination is actually - dare I say it - kind of irrelevant. 

So we come to the final transformation: BE IT 'TIL YOU BECOME IT...

We act on our beliefs; what we believe about ourselves, others, the world around us, and the deeper purpose behind. (Herein lies the faith component I alluded to in the first post on the subject.) And though our beliefs are all the time being honed and defined, they make up the engine that drives us.  

Our Beliefs determine and direct our actions. 

It is important to note that we act on our beliefs and not on what we say we believe - a subtle, yet massive distinction! May I once again make a case for the gargantuan value of authenticity?! But I'll save this one for future posts. (I believe I will soon be writing a subsequent vein of posts delving more deeply into faith). 

So there you have it - or at least all I have to add to the discussion at this point. There is more in you than you know. More potential. More capacity. More ability. Much more! Believe it... Act on it... Become it! As (coach) Herb Brooks said to (goalie) Jim Craig after the USA was embarrassingly beaten 10-3 by the Russians just prior to the MIRACLE of Lake Placid: "Have you (Jim)? Given me your very best? Because I know there's a lot more in you, a whole other level, that for some reason you just don't want to go..." 

My encouragement to you... Go there! I used to listen to a radio preacher that closed every broadcast with these words:

You are who you are... because of the 

Master Artist who put you together. 

Enjoy the Journey!!!

BE IT... YOU ARE BECOMING IT!!!

For now...

D

Fake it 'til... (pt.2)

My dad called me Davy Crockett when I was young, although I can't recall having ever donned a coonskin cap. OK, once (as an adult), but what happens at Cracker Barrel stays at Cracker Barrel! Even though I was for the most part capless, I did dream of wrestling bears and fighting for a noble cause. In many ways I still do. 

It is one thing to be called Davy Crockett and another to pretend to be Davy Crockett. It is far different, however, to find yourself thrust into a Davy Crockett role. Each of us wrestles bears. Whether we feel up to it or not - worthy or not, powerful or not, good enough or not - there are bears we are meant to wrestle. And no one can wrestle them for us.

The bottom line is that sometimes we just have to go for it (sorry 80's for stealing your cliche). We just have to do it (where are the Nike police?). We just have to BE IT!   

Once again, I refer to Amy Cuddy's TED Talk, Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are. Cuddy transforms the concept of fake it 'til you make it. In a nutshell, this is the epiphany I had while watching Cuddy's talk. Fake it 'til you make it is about arrival - arrival to a status, a position, a strata. This arrival is EXTERNAL. Cuddy's concept of FAKE IT 'TIL YOU BECOME IT... is about transformation. 

Now there is a word I like! Unlike an external arrival, 

TRANSFORMATION is an internal process
(with external impact). 

Transformation takes time. It is a journey. But after all, isn't life really most about the journey rather than the destination? It is this process that creates a Davy Crockett who, though he'd rather slip over the wall and run away, becomes the embodiment of courage and leadership in the face of overwhelming odds. It is this process that empowers a single mother to successfully spin the plates of provider, caregiver, disciplinarian and lover; especially when she feels like she's everything but a success! It is this process that enables a man to truly be a man; rather than the Madison Avenue image that is shoved down our playoff-watching throats! (Sorry, a little soap-box there... maybe for another post).

In the last post I wrote that Fake it 'til you make it smelled a little fraudulent? Well, let's deal with that. (Although I won't fully get there in this post). I don't want to dumb down to silly pop-psychology: I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me. No they don't Stuart! (Now that dude is in Congress?!). Bumper-sticker theology is not far off . You've seen it on the back of a car driving 47 mph in the left lane: Be patient, God's not finished with me yet. Well, the tractor-trailer coming up behind at 80 mph may take care of that! 

I'd like to take Cuddy's concept one step further. She took FAKE IT 'TIL YOU MAKE IT... and transformed it to FAKE IT 'TIL YOU BECOME IT... Let's go the next step and transform FAKE IT 'TIL YOU BECOME IT... to:

BE IT 'TIL YOU BECOME IT!

Subtle change of words (one)... Massive change in thinking!

But that will be for next time. I leave you, for now, with a quote I love. 

For now...

D

Fake it 'til you... (pt.1)

Fake it 'til you make it! You've heard it. You've

said it. You've even tried it - be honest! So how did it go?

I'd like to think there is a faith component involved in fake it til you make it. But truly, the phrase makes me feel fraudulent. Thinking about this post, a quick search on the Google led me to believe there are many fake it til you make it proponents out there. At the same time the anti-fake-it-til-you-make-it contingent has a strong voice.

Enter Amy Cuddy's powerful TED Talk entitled Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are.

Link to Amy Cuddy's Ted Talk

I confess to being a bit of a TED addict. And the perspective Cuddy brings to the discussion is both insightful and powerful.

Along with Cuddy's TED Talk - to which we'll return - I recently saw the 2004 version of The Alamo. It may not rank with Gone With the Wind or Citizen Kane, but buried within are are some quotes that resonate. My favorite comes from Billy Bob Thorton's Davy Crockett. Crockett and Jim Bowie, two larger-than-life frontier legends, are reflecting as Santa Anna's massive army besieges the small rebel force within the Alamo. As they laugh (in the face of near-certain death) about the tall-tales told about them, Crockett admits,

"If it was just me, simple old David from Tennessee, 

I might drop over that wall some night... 

take my chances. But that Davy Crockett feller... 

they're all watchin' him." 

In this statement, Crockett (at least the fictional one) admits apprehension and the sense he feels that he can't live up to his - that Davy Crockett feller's - hype. Mixed with this, however, is the inner strength and conviction that he must fulfill the role to which he is called.

Ever felt that way? You've probably never waded the Mississippi, leapt the Ohio or killed bears with your bare hands either. (For the over 45 crowd, cue the music... Davy, Davy Crockett... King of the wild frontier...) OK, real world - at what point did you suddenly feel equipped to be a parent? Or even more challenging, parent teens? The fact is, you and I are thrust into roles for which we feel unprepared and under-equipped.

I have had the opportunity to serve in several leadership roles over the span of my first 50. Into some of them I carried an awkward combination of confidence and sense of under-qualification. For many years I served as the senior pastor of a good size church. It was at times a daunting spot for ... simple old David... who just wanted to... drop over the wall some night...  I now find myself in a capacity in which I am often the least qualified and technically savvy person in the room; yet the responsibility for decision lies with my role.

So what are we to do? Fake it 'til we make it? Though the idea has merit at points, I think it falls short. And again, the phrase and the concept have the aroma of being a bit disingenuous. When I hear those words I picture people I've come across over the years who exhibit a heightened sense of self-importance and an underdeveloped character. I don't want to be one. Yet, I don't want to settle. As a matter of fact I want to press on... to achieve more, to serve more, to BE more!

TED :)

I hope to expand on this a little in pt.2. So I'm going to leave you hanging for now. In the meantime, watch Amy Cuddy's TED Talk when you get a chance. I promise you'll be inspired.

For now...
D

The all-time "BUT THEN..."

'nuff said...
D